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- About Me:
- Mother of two sons (three years and one year old), married to a great guy who puts up with my constant need to "find myself" over and over and over again. I just returned to the work force as we couldn't afford for me to stay home. I am an employment counsellor about 1.5 hours east of Toronto.
My oldest started preschool last month, three days a week, while my youngest is cared for at home by my mother. Daddy doesn't work Fridays so he has both boys on that day. I work Mon-Fri.
- Do you consider yourself a Feminist?
- Yes. A modern Feminist with traditional values.
- Are you...
- a woman who shoulders all domestic responsibility for your family
- Relationship Status:
- Married
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I'm getting better all the time....
Me used to be a angry young man
Me hiding me head in the sand
You gave me the word
I finally heard
I'm doing the best that I can.
I've got to admit it's getting better
A little better all the time
I have to admit its getting better since you've been mine
Getting so much better all the time
It's getting better all the time
~Getting Better by the Beatles
Okay, it's been one month since I started my antidepressant medication an…
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Posted on January 30th, 2008 at 2:10pm —
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How can this be?
It's been a while since my last post but things have been really crazy and hectic lately (holidays, my son's first birthday party, commitments at work). But I have great news.
I feel great!!!! As much as I hate to admit, life has improved tremendously since I began taking my antidepressants. Now that my mind is clear and I'm not thinking on an emotionally charged plane, I can see that I should have asked for help a long time ago! Hindsight is 20/20, eh? I no longer feel overwhelmed all…
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Posted on January 16th, 2008 at 11:23am —
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Update...day three on meds
Okay, so I started taking medication. After much soul searching and research I decided to go with some mild antidepressants and requested the brand I wanted from my doctor. It's day three and so far I don't feel much. I don't feel as anxious or emotional but it'll be weeks before I will notice the full effects of the medication.
On one hand I'm very embarassed to be taking antidepressants. On the other hand, it'll be nice to not cry every single day. So far the side ef…
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Posted on January 2nd, 2008 at 9:36am —
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I'm going on a journey. Wanna come?
Hello Fellow Feminists,
This is the first blog I have ever posted. Why start now? Well, I feel my message and upcoming journey are going to be life altering and for some bizarre reason I want to share it with you. So, without further delay let me open myself right up and put myself "out there".
After weeks, months, years of denial (and fear) I am finally embarking on a journey. It is a journey I must make alone while still having the support of family and friend…
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I notice you have two sons I also have two son but they are much older 13 and 8 and am trying for another been having a few problem in that department but am hoping things are back on track now..Will you have any more children ?I work with kids in my neighborhood at a community center helping run a breakfast program and have a few part time jobs to be honest witch really works for our family.
I just wanted to say hello i just recently join this group
my name is Brenda
What a cutie, you have 2 sons? My kids are all but grown, but I remember those days oh so well. It was precarious and even crazy at times because my 2 sons were born back to back with a little over a year apart, like Irish twins some say. But I was young and happy, at times, other times I was completely caught off guard, by what was "I" doing? I had my second son so quickly it kind of left me feeling like "why" did I have that second child so quickly? Well, obviously it was a little late for after thoughts, but the impression was that I was a young mom of two great sons. I was only depressed because well, everything else. I left my home, which my Aunt today, (my mom is gone) I miss her, although it is going on 3 years. But like it or not, I was ready to become a mom, I questioned as a young person not yet 20, and meeting a man much older, as I was still not mature in many ways, and thought that somehow he would protect me. And he did, his only daughter from a previous marraige, saw through much of what could have been considered "phony" or "careless" behavior as a waif like attitude, as old fashioned and antiquated as I was brought up to be.
I succeded in all the areas I should have failed, I was rebellious...I was good hearted...that proved to work against me in mondernist culture, where I should have learned to take advantage, I was horribly antiquated and refused to take off "the rosy colored glasses" mostly put there by the generation as well, did I mention I was a child of the 70's? I write fluently about the 70's, I would consult with movie writers about things from the 70's.
I was confused by most standards, not a dud, but certainly not firecracker. If someone had to describe me, I would think of something like a telephone, if you hit the right button I will respond, if I think you are trying to get over or you are off course, I will not even make a sound.
Otherwise, I got myself into problems...as the old adage goes, trouble keeps a dear school, and I was a great student.
Life is never easy, your young and still questioning your place in the world, aside of your family. God Bless your husband for being kind while you are dealing with the new life, and a second baby. It is a very different thing, being the mother of one, then suddenly all the individual time you were able to give to the first child, is kind of side lined with baby number 2 that is coming. It is tough at the least when you were playing with 1 new little person, whom you are totally in awe of, then this other new little person is needing your attention more.
Underlying things that nobody tells you until you are there. Be well, for now and remember to never forget how special life is, it is a gift and a treasure. Believe me when I tell you, there are many other circumstances out there.
And, believe me, my husband has to put up with me "finding myself" as well. The search is worth it, though, because I think my self will be a wonderous and beautiful thing!
Good luck on your search, and welcome to the community!
I'm constantly finding myself as well. I think it's the journey that is important. As my 95 year old grandfather-in-law says, the key to long life is to realize that you aren't right about everything - there's always something new to learn.
It's totally cool that you are not a wahm or sahm. The 'feminist housewife' is more of a model/mascot then a requirement!
I look forward to knowing you better!
- Erin