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Ethel Ellison Female Everett. WA, United States: 1g1eu3h465o6g; Share

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About Me:: I'm not a housewife. In fact, I work full-time. My husband, however, is a full-time SAHP / homemaker. I feel very strongly that supporting homemakers is key to fleshing out the feminist movement - I believe that an undervalueing of traditionally feminine work by feminists is a threat to the dignity and cohesiveness of the gender equality movement. Rather than pushing women to the workplace, we should be pushing men to recognize the value of the home (which I believe is happening - yay!)

I'm here because I am uncomfortable in the stereotyped feminist groups that demean my husband's vocation by saying that it is unworthy for women. I am frustrated by the implications that a family with a SAHM is ensconced in oppression, with the implication that wanting a spouse to stay home is tantamount to abuse (and that wanting to stay home is a symptom of brainwashing).

I feel that my husband is the lucky one, able to be with our children full-time. I know it is hard work - I had my turn at home first - but I also know how rewarding and meaningful it is. I struggle to find that same kind of inherent, direct meaning in my employed work, but take comfort in providing my family with the physical necessities through my paycheck while entrusting our children to their father's care (and it actually is an act of trust to step back and let him own the primary parent role! I didn't expect that - I wasn't socially prepared for another person to spend so much more time with my children than I do).