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At 10:09am on February 12, 2008, Kathy Carter said…: Thank you! I am really impressed with the goal of your work here.

My sons are 11 and 14. I was still employed when they were babies (my husband stayed home with the first one for a while), so I didn't have the isolation challenge that so many moms face. Since home/kids/school became my primary work, though, I have learned so much about myself!

My kids attend a parochial school. It is easy to become a full-time or more volunteer at such a place. I've done the PTA, school board, room mom roles; now, I focus on fundraising. I would like to do more community-service type volunteering, but that has to wait. Kids' sports, theater, music, and social activities are great vacuums of time, too!

I never expected such a traditional life. My foremothers were all professionals. I was 15 when the Equal Rights Amendment was the hot topic; my mother went to D.C. for a march. I went to law school because it was the 1980's and that's what smart girls did. I had political aspirations. I didn't like children. I planned to buy myself a red sports car when I turned 30. Instead, I married an underemployed actor and craved a baby immediately.

My career was still on track for a while. Gradually, my husband's prospects improved and I wanted more flexibility for my familiy's needs. I don't juggle as well as some women do. While I am very grateful that I can be a "housewife," I feel some confusion, too. Didn't my mother tell me to never depend on a man finanacially? Shouldn't I be using my education for more than debating with my teenage child? I trust that those feelings will pass; I do have the life that I want and need.

I mentioned that I've learned about myself. Who knew that I'm really a passionate gardener...that home improvement stores are fascinating...that I will never, ever, enjoy cooking?

I hope everyone can stay warm!

Kathy

At 11:26am on February 7, 2008, Erin C said…: Hello, Kathy! Welcome to the community. How old are your kiddos? What sort of volunteer work do you do?

I look forward to talking with you more!

- Erin C.

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About Me:

I was a lawyer; now I'm a mom/volunteer/part-time retail worker because retail hours can be scheduled around kids. Because I had kids a little older than average, I tend to "mother" in my own way. I never expected this life (or to rely on a man for financial support), but I have the life I need.

Do you consider yourself a Feminist?

of course

Are you...

a stay at home mom

Relationship Status:

Married

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