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- I am a 47 year old woman, I have 4 children 3 of which are grown, and my youngest daughter is 15. I have a great husband and many pets. I have a love of writing, so I look for many ways in which to share some of my knowledge and wanderings and experiences.
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- a housewife, a stay at home mom, a woman who shoulders all domestic responsibility for your family
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Our bigger problem, is what do we do once that magic dust is gone, as though it were just wiped away, the lovely impart of having the sense that all was possible, litterally. Those are some of lifes best to offers, amongst "having things going in a successful manner". And being aware of our differences in our cultures and knowing how to skim from the bottom of our new struggles with infidelitys, prostitutes on the internet, our younger generation coming into a a period of time of real questions, and practical postpone of wanting to get married for all the wrong reasons.
Strange as it might be, the edge of control is slipping and along with slipping, people are going in more openly about the "could be" and "should be" of married life, or in relationship, where really there is much gray area. But there are many of us, common law wives that are just not into having a piece of paper to say "were legal". My husband has been my husband, "for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health" and plus a minus a couple of little inuendos.
I think we all have moments that are like, "oops" where is the cliff so I could jump off. But it is good to remember that the cliff moves often and in different, so just take care, when jumping that you have a parachute in other words plan II or at the least the cliff is not to far from the ground.
I hope the feminst here are aware of the many powerful role models, that have shown struggles through out lost marraiges, out of control kids, budget crisis, and other things that I am sure many are aware of drug abuse, sex abuse, and any abuse period is difficult to deal with, and can seriously cause many more problems. Thankfully, as compared to those bad boys, my problems seem much more manageable now. I thank-you all for your interest. And yes I still think Hillary can kick Obama's butt, she will just have to be the fighter that she is, and Obama has come out and said as recently as yesterday that she is a formidable candidate, it is just going to go back and forth until the primarys are over time will tell on this one.
NOOOOOO!!
As my husband would have me believe, I ONLY like Hill for Prez because I identify w/ stong, belligerant females....
BULLSHIT.
Fact: I am a life-long registered DEM
Fact: Hill-a-Bill, or Hillaby, or Billary, or wtf ever the "media" has coined her at present, had ALWAYS and since WAY b4 her run for NY Senator, let every one who was ANYONE in the party know she would make a presidential bid for '08.
Fact: WhoTF is OBAMA?!!??##@!!??!?#! to come in as this Newbie, Wannabee, SPOILER?!!??##?!?
Fact: Obama has not nearly put in the years/months/hours/time of his life toward the Democratic Party as has Hillary (Yes, w/ Bill, but who cares?...Hours are hours, campaigning is campaigning, support is support, time is time-of her life, too-...and so on)
Fact: THE ONLY REASON OBAMA -EVER THE CAPITALIST(and,,,NO, the liberal media will NOT be publically cognisant of this...) jumped-in as a DEM SPOILER is precisely bcuz he took a look at the Republican polls that had historically placed their feelings towards their own party OVERALL IN THE NEGATIVE RATINGS AFTER 9-11!!!!!!!!!He KNEW this was his ONLY CHANCE...
Fact: If the ONLY thing Obama has going for his candicacy is "Change", and if that "change" is a pre-requisite for shunning "politics as usual", THEN, HOW are we, as rational human beings, to believe that he is any less egotistical, arrogant, meniacal, power-driven, as any OTHER POLITICIAN ON THE FACE OF THE PLANET????
FACT: GET OVER IT, PEOPLE... ALL POLS ARE POLS. If u believe for even 1minute that anyone willing to put not only themselves, but also their loved-ones, families, friends, et.al. through the EXTREME VIGORS of the microscopic judgement that comes with running as a Presidential candidate of the United States of America- and that INCLUDES Republicans-- has not the stuff of SHEER EGOTISM and POWER-DRIVEN HUNGER as does Hill, McCain, Obama, Edwards, Kennedy(s), Nixon, Carter, Reagan, Humphrey, ET. Al..............then u r not only knieve, but stupid.
It is what it is.
So why shouldn't the "Is" be a wonderfully intelligent, devoted, strong, kick-ass type of WOMAN, named HRC?????
Fact: If HRC does not make the nom,,,I WILL, for the first time in MY LIFE, VOTE REPUBLICAN (AS IN, FOR MCCAIN)
Fact: I don't like anyone telling ME when IT's MY TURN, AND WHEN IT'S NOT.
p.s. This goes to the public forum, but I don't know how to post it as such...can u help Gloria?
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Justine
Thanks for the comment. It sounds like we have some things in common. I also have a bratty (at times) teenage girl. It is strange spending time with her and then my 13-month-old. I have to remind myself that she used to be that sweet. Sounds like things are difficult at home right now (when are they not, right). I can relate. I wish you peace.
Stacey
Thanks for the message, your comment about me "being busy" was so vindicating and made me feel good. I am impressed with your age guessing! My oldest, Katelyn, was 14 in the photo but is 15 now. She is extremely mature and it shows in her looks. She is in Year 11 (2nd last year of schooling). The middle 1 is 11 (10 in picture) and in Year 7 which is her last year of primary school. The youngest is 8 but seems so much younger than the other 2 in many ways. In Australia there is very little support for Moms (sorry but I cant find it in myself to say parents as 99% of all caring that I am exposed to is done by the female counterpart). They obviously do all their own domestics and are expected to contribute a lot of volunteer time - why would she want or need to get paid! All clubs, school canteen etc. are run totally by non-paid parents (um - parents should stand for Mom's). It is so funny (not) we have like 100 Mom's volunteering at school - 2 Dad's and guess who the president of the P&C is! What is the MOST annoying is that most of my female friends are part of this happening. They dont support their female counterparts and if I dare point this out I am given the evil eye and left standing alone! So having you like-minded brilliant people to share with is heaven. I will try and restrict my rantings, but, it feels so good. My husband and I both trained as accountants but his salry grew 10X more than mine - even though I was tutoring him! Then the cost of 3 kids in daycare I chose to stay home. I do manage to earn from home now and then, but it is exhausting. I hope I am not boring you, but, I have to tell you this little story. Yesterday, a van arrives with mowing gear to do our 2 neighbours lawns. The 1 chap is retired (but quite able) and the other is a teacher (who if he was a woman would not be considered as working full time!). I dont know any woman friends who get help at home (cleaners etc) BUT nearly every male has a lawn service - hello - why do woman accept this? I was amazed to hear you describe your husband as "great". I dont know if it made me envious or curious. My husband is extremely domineering (very much a SOuth African culture) and aggressive. Unfortunatly that is how my Dad, step-Dad and most role models were in my life so I have accepted it. I am tiered of it though and worry that my girls might accept it as the norm. Having said that - they treat me a bit like he does. We are slowly working on things but to be honest it is a bit of a 99% me 1% him effort ratio. Hope I dont sound totally negative or whiny, just off-loading. You mentioned writing - do you do it professionally? I love reading and have considered (with the rest of the population) writing 1 day. Where do you live? Perth is quite beautiful and we are only 3 kms from beautiful swimming beaches - not that we go often enough. Today is 38C again, but not too bad is we have very low humidity. How cool is it to see someone like Erin (and so young) drive all this! Hope you not stuck in your washing basket (I seemed joined to the hip with mine). Regards, Tracey
My husband was in the military for a while before we were together, but isn't now. I have some friends in the Guard and ROTC. As far as career military goes, my grandfather was a Navy man. I started the group because I wanted our people involved with the service to have their own place here.
As far as the Vet whose wife left him - I think we, as humans, are more animal than we'd like to admit. From an evolutionary psychology stand point, it makes sense that she would go to find a new protector. I'm not saying it's right, but it also wouldn't be right for her to stay if she was unhappy. Personally, I think it's better for kids to have two happy parents who are separated than two unhappy parents in the same house.
I look forward to talking with you more!
- Erin C.
Your rants are more than welcome here! If you want to start a dialogue with other community members, start a discussion in the forum. If you'd rather just get your thoughts out, you can make a blog post.
What sort of pets do you keep? We have a bearded dragon and a ball python - we love mammals, but we're basically allergic to all of them!
- Erin C.
I can't wait to read some of your writing and rants - I joined this space too, because my offline friends get glazed eyes when I start on one of my feminist causes, and I wanted people I could talk to.